Perspective About Life
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What People Think of Me
What others say about me no longer defines me the way it once did. Years ago, a colleague made a remark about me, saying that if you placed water in a spoon and put it in my mouth, you could walk away and return to find it exactly as you left it. It was their way of describing my quiet and reserved nature—someone who rarely reacted, never stirred the waters, and as a result, was often taken for granted.
For a long time, I embraced that quiet demeanor, believing that actions spoke louder than words. But over time, life has taught me the importance of balance. While I still value composure, patience, and kindness, I have also learned that my voice matters. I am no longer hesitant to speak up when the situation demands it. I’ve become more assertive, more willing to address challenges directly, and less willing to be overlooked or underestimated. I have learned that being gentle and being firm are not mutually exclusive—they can coexist.
People have always described me as quiet and extremely kind, a trait I know I inherited from my parents. My parents were known for their generosity, always welcoming people into our home with open arms. It was common for friends, neighbors, and even distant relatives to come over and share meals with us. Through this, I learned the value of sharing, of being selfless, and of treating others with kindness and respect.
Because of this upbringing, gentleness became second nature to me. I was the person who listened more than I spoke, who extended kindness even when it wasn’t reciprocated, and who always sought to create harmony in any environment. In fact, the vast majority of people—probably 99%—who have known me personally have told me that I am “too gentle.” For a long time, I saw this as a defining trait, but as I grew older, I realized that while gentleness is a virtue, it should never come at the expense of my own voice or presence.
Now, I embrace both sides of who I am. I am still kind, still open-hearted, and still believe in treating people with respect. But I am also no longer afraid to stand my ground, set boundaries, and speak with confidence when the situation calls for it. I have learned that true strength lies in knowing when to be silent and when to speak, when to extend grace and when to demand respect. And in that balance, I have found a version of myself that is both authentic and empowered.
Changed Perspective
Life is a journey of continuous growth, learning, and transformation. It is an ever-evolving experience shaped by our choices, mindset, and interactions with the world. While challenges and setbacks are inevitable, they serve as opportunities for resilience, self-discovery, and strength. Each phase of life presents lessons that contribute to our development, pushing us to evolve into better versions of ourselves.
At its core, life is about purpose and impact. Beyond personal achievements, true fulfillment comes from our relationship with God, the faith we nurture, and the positive influence we have on others. Success is not just measured by material gains but by the depth of our faith, the love we extend, and the legacy we leave behind. Trusting in God, maintaining a life of consistent prayer, and studying His Word provide clarity, direction, and inner peace in a world filled with uncertainties.
I thank God that I got born again in a Word of Faith and Bible-believing church, where I was rooted in the truth of God’s Word. From an early age—around eight years old—I learned how to fast. At the time, it was more of a routine for me, as I didn’t fully understand its purpose. However, as I grew in faith and knowledge, I realized the power of fasting, prayer, and communion with God. These spiritual disciplines have shaped my life, strengthened my relationship with Him, and guided me through the highs and lows of life.
Perspective plays a crucial role in shaping our experience. What may seem like an obstacle to one person can be a stepping stone for another. By trusting in God, walking in faith, and staying anchored in His Word, we can navigate life’s uncertainties with confidence and wisdom. Instead of being fearful of failure, we should see it as part of the process—every challenge holds the potential for divine intervention and breakthrough.
Ultimately, life is about balance—between ambition and contentment, personal growth and faith, dreams and reality. With God at the center, our journey becomes more meaningful, filled with purpose and assurance that He is directing our steps. Instead of rushing toward a final destination, embracing the journey with faith, gratitude, and unwavering trust in God is what makes life truly fulfilling.